DEAR ABBY: I just lately acquired a voicemail from my brother that recorded a dialog he was having together with his spouse. It was clear he didn’t know he had by chance dialed my cellphone throughout this dialog.
It was an argument, which lasted two minutes earlier than there was a pause within the dialog and he hung up.
I haven’t addressed it with him but as a result of I’m shocked at my sister-in-law’s conduct throughout this dialog, and the best way she treats my brother.
I’ve recognized for some time that she blames others for conditions she ought to share the blame in, however I had by no means heard her in a non-public dialog till this voicemail.
My brother should know these two minutes reside on my cellphone, though we haven’t spoken about it. I wish to speak with him and inform him that I heard what she stated.
I’d like him to know I hope she treats him with respect, and that she sounds ungrateful for all of the laborious work he places in at his job of their one-income family with two youngsters. How ought to I deal with this? — OVERHEARD IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR OVERHEARD: Discuss to your brother and specific that the battle between him and his spouse was partially recorded in your cellphone.
Then inform him you don’t imply to pry, however assume he and his spouse may benefit from marital counseling if they’re each prepared. (I hope he’ll pay attention and have some classes, even when his spouse refuses.)
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are retired. He sits in his recliner chair all day, on daily basis. He says he’s “learning his Bible” or watching YouTube movies.
He additionally sleeps 12 to 14 hours after he goes to mattress round 8 p.m. most nights.
This has been occurring for at the least a 12 months, and I’m SICK of it. I desire a companion to do issues with.
Nothing I’ve accomplished or stated motivates him to stand up and transfer. Since I’m not prepared to simply accept this way of life for myself, I take courses on the Y three to 5 instances per week, go to lunch with associates, learn and attend our neighborhood guide membership, paint and do crafts, and speak with or e-mail associates.
Most nights, I watch TV upstairs on my own. I’ll as properly be single! Any strategies? — UNCOUPLED IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR UNCOUPLED: Get that husband of yours to his physician for an intensive bodily and neurological examination. Individuals of all ages want some type of train. When individuals who weren’t sedentary spend all day, on daily basis sitting, it’s harmful to their well being.
Your husband might undergo from any variety of illnesses, together with despair. Ensuring he has been checked out could possibly be life altering not just for him but in addition for you.
DEAR ABBY: When the hostess gives you leftovers after a pleasant meal, how a lot do you have to take? — WONDERING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WONDERING: Don’t be grasping. Go away sufficient meals for different visitors to take some dwelling if they need, and don’t neglect to do the identical in your hostess.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
